What is good self-esteem?
A person with good self-esteem is more likely to think of themselves in positive ways, have an optimistic outlook and the ability to manage and overcome difficult situations. Everyone’s self-esteem can fluctuate and change as we go through different challenges – such as starting a new school, family difficulties, and relationships with friends.
What can affect our self-esteem?
Lots of things can have an impact on our self-esteem and these things will be different from person to person. Messages we get from our parents, friends, teachers, brothers and sisters, and from TV and the media can be both positive and negative. The messages we think are negative are often the ones that lower our self-esteem. Some young people develop unrealistic and impossible expectations of themselves. When these expectations become harder and harder to achieve, this has a negative impact on self-esteem.
What can help?
- Don’t bottle things up, talk to someone you trust
- Use social media wisely, don’t believe everything you see
- Practise positive self-talk. This is a tool that challenges the negative dialogue that we can sometimes experience. Read more about positive self talk in the article Positive Self Talk
- Listen to music that helps you feel more upbeat
- Look after your physical health, try to eat healthily and exercise
- Get involved with a group, being with other people with similar interests is a great way to build confidence, self-esteem and establish friendships
- Remind yourself every day of the things you are good at and that you appreciate about yourself
- Read the Young Minds article Six Ways You Can Boost Your Self Esteem
Getting More Help
If you feel that your self-esteem is impacting on your day to day life, then it’s important that you speak to someone that you trust; this might be family and friends, or a teacher, mentor or school counsellor or your GP. If you find it difficult to talk about how you are feeling, you could write them a letter or send them a text. Support is also available through Childline, Compass Phoenix, Kooth and Recovery College Online.
Getting Urgent Help
If you’ve seriously injured yourself or taken an overdose call 999 or get immediate medical advice from NHS 111.
If you are in a crisis and feel like you can’t cope, speak to somebody straight away. Search below for help or see the Urgent Help page for contact details for the North Yorkshire single point of access Crisis Service.